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Honor Your Time of Going Within: The Winter Seasons

JenineHowry2Along with winter comes the desire and need to cover up from what is outside of us. We layer on extra protection, keeping us safe and warm. Winter challenges us to warm ourselves from the inside out. We have the opportunity to work on our inner guidance, direction, and issues that keep us stuck. Without the winter and inner work, we become bitter from the cold. Warmth on the inside gives us the promise of tomorrow and a new season that approaches where our new seeds can be planted in order to provide new growth.

The type of seeds we will plant is decided in the winter though. As we work through our inner selves and new ideas, our inspiration is to decide what new seeds we shall soon plant. Will this be a new book project, a resolution of some sort, a passing of sorrow or leading into a new filled joy?

Along with every season, winter must come just as the others. We are not the same without its coldness, the need to cover from the elements and go within, and the new decisions we will make while we await the spring. Many see time spent in the winters of life as a shadow cast upon them with darkness all around. This is alright. Without the shadows in life we would never come to understand how brilliant the light can be!

“I will come to honor the winter seasons with its shadows, coldness, and need for covering. I have faith that God will provide the covering and inspiration I need for a fresh new season when spring arrives. I intend for the best seed to be placed into my heart and hands for the greater harvest when the time is right.”

Loving you from here,

Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC 


Are You Silently Chained to the Past?

cropped-jeninehowry2While you read this, I would like you to think about something profound when it comes to the past. It does not exist accept in your mind. Where else could it be? It has already happened and no longer should be a part of you accept for what you have learned from it. The past is an illusion, so why do so many of us allow it to keep on hurting us? Do we owe it something? Are we willing to sacrifice our present and our future for it?

Good or bad the past is OVER, done, and gone. It was a part of your life once. There were people, experiences, things, and dreams. Some of those things have already moved on and others you might have let go of. Even the dreams of the past are not complete because we add to them or they change over time. Now is the time to let go of the silent past that dwells within you. You keep it alive inside of you. As long as you do this you can not move onward.

“Today, I will remove the past from my thinking and only consider what I am experiencing now. I will venture into my future without silent past coming back to keep me from movement. I realize that movement brings momentum. The past is gone, and over. Today, I give over any further past residue over to God who lives within me and in God’s presence, I let go.”

Loving you from here,

Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC 

Establishing Yourself in the “Void”

JenineHowry2I was watching a movie the other night and one of the characters proclaimed, “I don’t know what is wrong with me, I feel so empty.” In the story line she was in transition. Her life had a pending new decision which meant letting go of all that is for soon what will be. In the mean time, her life was void, empty, seemingly stuck. I nodded as I listened to her mostly complain and cry. Drama will be drama. I understood her statement though. I think we have all been there. In “the void”.

The void is that place where we think is dark and empty. It seems that way when we are there. In truth, though, it’s a place filled with expectation and creation. Remember, God created from that which was void and made beautiful things. The void is a place of learning to let go of what was for what will be. It’s a place of utilizing our faith and imagination to create new things. Yes, it is also an exercise in patience!

The challenge here is becoming comfortable in that place of being “in between” things in life. Our first inclination is to “feel empty” like the character in the movie I was watching. Actually the void is filled with possibilities. Just think of having every opportunity to create anything you want while waiting for new things to happen in life. As you wave good bye to what will soon be past, you will be preparing to wave hello to your future! The void is a place of deep imagination and intuitive creativity. Can you think of what you really want in life and picture it so much that you actually FEEL it?

Close your eyes for a moment and picture something you really want for your life. Don’t open them again until you feel it will all your being. Feel the excitement, see the colors, and sense the newness of the future. This is the place of infinite possibilities! Are you excited for this place now? Smile, because you have every opportunity to create something beautiful while you are in between everything else.

Affirm this with me:

“I love this place that is filled with opportunity and creative genius! I can see all possibilities here and feel excited for my future!”

Loving you from here,

Jenine Marie Howry

What’s Your Problem?

frustrated-womanNow there is a million dollar question, right? I guess I should entitle this post, “What Problem Are You Dealing With Now?” I can see your wheels turning. Maybe you are dealing with many problems. Welcome to my multi-tasking world! Let me interject some reality here. Everyone, I mean everyone, has problems! In fact, if you don’t have problems I would think you are an alien with some sort of super powers to overcome obstacles and leap tall buildings at a single bound. Bottom line, you can not escape them!

Yes, I know, they make life a pain. Life is supposed to be a pain. In fact, life is supposed to be one pain after another. Life is like labor pains; problems and labor pains. Before you click off and proclaim me too negative, think about this. Without problems there is no reason to solve anything. Can you hear me in this? If there is no reason to solve anything then there is no way to grow, no need for intuitive insight, no reason to find or seek peace. Have you ever had a problem resolved and were able to take that deep sigh of relief that says, “I did it”!

You see, without problems there is no celebration of success either. Interview any successful person and they will tell you about all of the problems they had to field on the way to where they are. So, get on your hiking boots because life is a mountain to climb. Yes, indeed, we can speak to that mountain, “Be thou removed” and if we have faith, it should vanish, right? I think it’s more honest to think that maybe the mountain can be removed by solving the issue concerning how to climb it! That is the only way muscle will be built and the only way we can ever celebrate our success!

I know, sometimes it feels like one thing after another hits us and we become sure there is a bulls eye on our behind that every problem seems to be attracted to. If this is how you ever feel than consider yourself fortunate! Sounds strange, I know. Think of it this way. The more issues you need to field and solve the more your faith has to be exercised, your brain has to be accessed, your emotions need to be tamed, and your skills need to be utilized.

How about if I interject the idea that having problems is a blessing and thinking of them that way will make them less daunting? If life were always easy and no problems were to ever come up, I think that would mean a person is probably dead or in a coma. Let’s embrace them, alright? Repeat after me:

“Problem, I am so blessed by you! Thank you for coming into my life, because now I am challenged to be an over comer. Thank you for showing me that I am alive! Yes, I treasure you and your lessen you came to teach me”!

Blessings upon you, AND the problems you face today!

Jenine Marie Howry

Jenine Marie Coaching and Ministries LLC

Handling Difficult People

woman-yelling-5938034No doubt we live in a world that is filled with so many diverse people and personalities. In all honesty, this is what makes life worth living and exploring. We are “about” relationship. Without others there is no true evolution of our souls or healing of our scars. Keeping this in mind, there is one real truth that tends to bring grace, mercy, and understanding to the difficult personality.

Here it is. Are you ready? People act out of their own personal pain from the inside and they project it outward toward a person or situation that they feel is unfavorable. Usually it all comes out in anger or blame. Some people are consumed with their anger and resentment. Have you ever met the “perpetual walking bad mood”? They are difficult to say the least.

The real truth is, the walking bad mood has deep scars that create a vacuum or blockage for anything that resembles peace and harmony in life. They appear to just project their bad mood outward but what they really are doing is revealing their own personal pain. This might be on a very unconscious level, even unknown to them as to why they act or feel the way they do.

Do you know a person or people like this? Let me give you some insight as to how to deal with them. It’s more like how to “see” them. Their outer expressions are much more revealing than anyone truly thinks.

  1. First of all know and understand that people act out of their personal pain. Someone who is difficult to deal with most likely has an unconscious mind that is driving on auto pilot and they have no idea why they are as difficult as they are.
  2. See the God part within them. This is not as hard to do as it seems. Just believing we all were created in the image of God helps to reveal to us the great parts of difficult human beings
  3. See them through God’s eyes. You have God living within you. Consciously remind yourself that the part of you that inhabits God can look through your eyes and see spiritually, intuitively, and soulfully, the truth about any human being.
  4. Don’t return anger for anger. This only multiplies the anger that is already there. The Bible tells us that a soft answer will turn away wrath. This is truth. We can turn someone’s angry day into a better one just by being more positive and loving toward someone who is hard to be around.
  5. Know we all struggle. You struggle, I struggle, and everyone struggles. We all have soul scars from this life we have led and we all project them onto others whether we intend to or not. We are in this together. We all have been humanly flawed.
  6. Remember we carry God in our inner temple. We are now the temple of God who dwells within us and there is nothing more powerful than this truth in our lives. That power can be used anytime, anywhere, and with anyone. All you need is to believe and have faith in that power to heal and deal with another in order to do so.

Affirm: “I choose to see past the difficulty in other’s lives and actions, knowing we all struggle with them, and see the God part of each person. Because I know the truth about their actions and that God lives inside of all of us, I can be at peace with them. I have the power from God within me to overcome my own struggles and handle others as well. I see their expressions of difficulty and anger as the hurts that were formed inside of them as they have lived their lives. I wish and pray for them healing in the midst of the storms of life. I pray them healed and made whole. I choose to see their beauty and the treasure that they are no matter how difficult they become. What I focus on becomes bigger, so their beauty outshines any difficulty they might present.”

Ask God for the eyes of compassion in all things and you will know and understand how to handle any or all difficult issues with others.

Peacefully Yours,

Jenine Marie Howry


Are We Trying to Teach People to Transform Into the Image of God or the Image of Ourselves?

IMG_20171023_130408Recently, I found myself becoming very frustrated with others “teachings”. It seemed like no matter what I did it was WRONG in someone’s eyes. Bottom line, I know by now to do what I feel God says is right for me but the question of so many conflicted communications haunted me continually. I asked God, “How do we become as One with one another and also One with You if we have so many conflicting ideas?”

The question perplexed me because there hardly seemed to be a way to even come to a happy medium on the subject.  I found myself entrapped in so many “don’ts”. Don’t wear this. Don’t say that. Don’t pray this way. Don’t preach as a woman. Don’t this and don’t that. I found myself in sorrow because it caused me to feel that there was no place I could possibly belong with so many RULES and don’ts.

It was not until I sought God for the answer alone did I truly find my answer in this question. “Are we, as the children of God, transforming ourselves in the image of our Creator or are we attempting to transform one another into each other’s image?” It was harsh to read when I came to the teaching on self righteousness in my doctoral course in spiritual psychology. Basically, this is what it is when God’s children try to change one another into their own image instead of reflecting God’s.

There is only one way to become ONE as Jesus had prayed to the Father. That is to SEE ourselves as ONE. When we judge, criticize, or scrutinize one another we are actually doing it to ourselves. We are all a part of the ONE that Jesus prayed for. We are in conflict. We misunderstand. If we want to reflect the One that Jesus was speaking of then the rules have to go out the window.

Our goal is to transform by the renewing or our minds. This means every part of our own minds. It is about our conscious mind and our subconscious mind. If we don’t, then our subconscious mind will take over and do the driving. Our personal and individual commitment with God is to actively pursue that transformation, not to tell others how they should transform.

We can act as a guide to one another but forcing our views on each other only side steps God. Do we really want to do this? God sees us as One with each other and One with Him. This is the TRUTH. We are the ones who separate ourselves out of our self righteous need to be the one who knows it all. In honesty, we don’t know it all. We know in part. This is what God has said. This is me quoting God, not an idea I brewed myself.

I wonder what would happen if we took the judgement, the rules, the criticism, and the pointing of fingers out of the equation and just saw that we are One as God has made us to be. We are each a unique facet of a beautiful diamond called the people of God. We shine with brilliance in God’s sight. Why can’t we shine with brilliance when we look at one another? Do we have to become so uncomfortable that we are forced to change our view of how we are One? I mean, we can either do things the easy way or the hard way. Its our choice.

Together as ONE. –

Pastor Jenine Marie Howry


Love Trumps Rules

heartHave you ever heard the expression, “rules without relationship bring rebellion”? A person can try to enforce all the rules upon someone else but if there is no relationship all the rules in the world can not make someone love or obey. I can’t say why we get so caught up in rules in the Christian faith but it sure does not bring good relationships. Jesus’ way is the way of the Father’s love. His love is a love that covers even when we fail or make mistakes, and we all fail.

Jesus came for the sick not the perfect. The irony is there is none who is perfect, so in the divine design he died for everyone. It’s our personal choice if we want to accept His ways or not. To be in Christ is to be in love.

Honestly, who cares how a person prays as long as they do, or how a person dresses because it is God who dressed man and woman first in the garden of Eden. When someone opens their mouth to speak the word of God does it really matter what gender they are as long as the words their mouth speak are God’s?

I’ve been thinking a lot about this today, you know, rules over grace. There seem to be so many more “thou shalt not’s” than God originally intended. Even in the commandments that God gave to us, He also gave us grace through the death and resurrection of His Son Jesus. If we really truly want healing we need love in grace. If we really truly want fellowship with the people of God, and God Himself, then we need to chuck the rules and go with relationship instead. We already have too much rebellion.

How can we build beautiful churches and not allow the whole council of God be spoken within them by denying women to speak? If Jesus showed up in rags and in bare feet would we allow Him in our doorways? I wonder if we need that new sound system or if we need more love in our hearts to feed those who are weary and poor. These are not meant to be judgement but observations and questions that I have.

Having relationship means having love. How do we expect anyone to follow the ways of Christ by causing them to feel judged every time they turn around? I’m sure some of my statements here are not popular. I am not looking to be popular but to speak the truth. Everyone seems to have a different rule these days. Rules of how to pray right and rules of how to act or dress. We can’t go to some seminaries if we have been divorced and yet God allowed divorce. He said so in the Bible. It does not mean that divorce is the better road but it means grace covers those who have to go through the ordeal.

I’m voting for relationship and I am on the side of love; God’s love through Christ. I don’t know how to fix the mistakes we make in the church, but I know the One who does, and I think if we turn to Him the answers are already there.

In love and peace,
Pastor Jenine Marie Howry