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Moments of Decision’s Past

Some moments in time are like dividing lines between seasons of learning, maturing, and growing. Think of those moments where your decisions might have been a bit more wise, clear, and spiritually discerning. Mind you, we don’t live in the past, but we should reflect on it in order to learn. Over the last few weeks I have been in a mode where even in my dreams my past decisions have been looming up in front of me. It’s amazing how the thoughts of possible upcoming trials can spin us into moments of evaluation. It’s good to evaluate. It brings clarity into our lives and sometimes we even see the gift that resides within what we deem as mistakes. Remember, whatever choices you made in the past were the right ones for the moment according to where you were in maturity, understanding, and faith. There is nothing that grows us up faster than what we see as a wrong decision. Putting things in perspective, there is never really a wrong decision. It is just a …

Scapegoat Mentality

Back in Biblical times there was a sacrificial animal called the “scapegoat”. When the Levite priests did ceremony to cleanse the people of sins, the sins were symbolically placed into the animal and then it was sent out into the wilderness. It ran off carrying the sins of the people with it. In modern days, the scapegoat is a person who ends up taking the punishment for the wrongdoings or the sins of others. This hardly seems fair, but it happens all of the time, especially in families. One would think this would be the last place this would happen but it does, and usually behind closed doors. It also happens in places of business, in schools, and other places. I believe I have even watched this happen online as well. Wherever people gather, there is a tendency to be someone around who has to press down others in order to feel better about themselves. The pressed down one is usually the lonely one who bears the pain that has been placed upon them. It’s …

In All Honesty: Is It Time to Grow Up?

There are several attributes a person could be proud to have as a quality. One of the greatest things, of course, is love. I know I have often written about integrity as well. A very important attribute to have is to be honest. One huge reason is that lying is detested by God. Since God lives inside of us, we actually detest ourselves when we lie. Its a scourge to one’s own soul and looks pretty ugly inside and out. Since God can not lie it is obviously something that comes out of ego and often pride. Being honest does not mean to spill out every detail of our lives like lava spewing from a volcano. It means to walk in enough integrity to be honest to those we love concerning things that are deeply important. For instance, withholding something from someone because we know it will hurt them is not integrity. If we know it will hurt them, then its something that should not be done. Right? Yet, being honest when we have done …

Do We Have to Age Gracefully?

I was visiting my favorite drug store here in Paris, TX to grab a few things I needed for the week. A lovely lady with a very modern hair style with some awesome red highlights helped me at the cosmetic counter when I was ready to be rung up. Before she gave me the total I asked if they take AARP, which is an organization that gives benefits and discounts to older people. She proudly said they did and in fact she noted she would have to get one of those, (an AARP card). Suddenly a huge smile hit her face as she let me know she was 56 years old! Wow, she sure did not look it. I would have never known. In fact, she looked in her late 30’s or 40’s. Since she shared, I was happy to share my age. She returned my complement, “Wow, you sure don’t look that age!” I don’t mind my age. I just don’t want to FEEL my age. I still think I’m in my 30’s but …

Ever Wonder What Your “Self” Is?

I recall a pivotal moment when I heard the expression, “Out of all the things you miss in life, do you miss your mind the most?” I’m not sure who first said that, but I would certainly give credit if I could. I only know it was years ago now and I had to stop and think about it. Do I miss my mind, and what does that really mean? If my mind is missing, does that mean I am out of my mind? So many questions, so little time, right? More confusion came lately as I began to study for my doctorate. I was reading books faster than a speeding bullet and I am pretty sure I broke the sound barrier one night. Several books later and probably about a pound of pretzels, I found myself getting real irritated. All I kept reading about was the “self”. Old adages came back to my brain, “Be true to yourself,” Be real with yourself,” Be kind to yourself.” I could feel my eye brows taking the …

Are You a Fraction of Yourself?

I would hate to be laying in that space between this life and mortal death with deep regrets over all of the things I wish I had explored in this life, but did not. Every now and then I think of this. Would I regret some of my choices or lack of choices? I wonder what I might of done or been but did not think myself worthy, or did not take the time. I even wonder more if I would have missed the boat on something special because others did not approve of what I was becoming, believing, or doing. Remember that old quote “To thine own self be true?” Have you even asked your “self” what it wants or desires right now? Or have you asked and know what it is but are afraid to pursue it? We can always look outside of ourselves at others and see the things they “are” or “do” and think, “I would love to do that!” But, is it something that truly can belong to you? Does …

Are You Silently Chained to the Past?

While you read this, I would like you to think about something profound when it comes to the past. It does not exist accept in your mind. Where else could it be? It has already happened and no longer should be a part of you accept for what you have learned from it. The past is an illusion, so why do so many of us allow it to keep on hurting us? Do we owe it something? Are we willing to sacrifice our present and our future for it? Good or bad the past is OVER, done, and gone. It was a part of your life once. There were people, experiences, things, and dreams. Some of those things have already moved on and others you might have let go of. Even the dreams of the past are not complete because we add to them or they change over time. Now is the time to let go of the silent past that dwells within you. You keep it alive inside of you. As long as you …