All posts filed under: Marriage

In Christ,We Are Sealed

Song of Solomon 8:6-8 “Seal me in your heart with permanent betrothal, for love is strong as death, and jealousy is as cruel as Sheol. It flashes fire, the very flame of Jehovah. 7 Many waters cannot quench the flame of love, neither can the floods drown it. If a man tried to buy it with everything he owned, he couldn’t do it.” I peeked outside for just a moment as my husband was working on our outside wood deck. Texas has some harsh weather at times. In the summer it is humid and hot, tempered with occasional thunder storms. Winters are cold and sometimes it snows in our north east area of the Lone Star State. The fluctuation in temperatures, with water in the air and ground, can be very hard on wood outside. Without something to seal the wood the harshness of the weather would rot it out and soon it would have to be replaced. Basically, it falls apart. I was reminded of the Scripture in Song of Solomon in the Bible where two …

Online Cheating

Do I really want to talk about this one? Sometimes God nudges me in directions that I really don’t want to go but it is necessary. This morning it happens to be online cheating. It comes up so much more often than most of us realize. Our techie age has created wonderful ways to meet people we otherwise would not meet, but unfortunately it is becoming the number one mode of marital/relationship infidelity. It is also becoming one of the foremost reasons for divorce in our country and others. After all, our country includes Canada, Mexico, and also the United States. Infidelity extends to the Philippines and other areas of the world. With the world at our fingertips the possibilities are multiplied. I can already hear the questioning in my ears as to whether online communication with no intimacy is cheating or not. Well, I guess I can ask this question in return. Does your spouse know about your communications? If not, its cheating. It makes no difference if there is flirtation or not. Satisfying …

The Effects of Sexual Addiction in Marriage and Book Suggestion

Quite awhile ago I picked up a book written by a Christian wife named Laurie Hall. Her book is called “Affair of the Mind”.  It is about how she found out about her husband’s sexual addiction, how it effected her personally, and how she dealt with it as a woman and Christian believer. I recall I had a hard time putting this one down. I read most of it the very first night I had it. My heart went out to her as I read her words and felt like I experienced her life in a lot of ways. I had been previously married to someone who was a sexually addicted man. Believe me, it’s no walk in the park, and can feel quiet abusive to experience. Beyond the stereotypical “men will be men” comments, sexual abuse is a very serious problem in a marriage. A sex addict gets just as much of a rush from naked images and porn as a cocaine addict does using the drug. I’ve heard stories of men who have …

For the Men: Be Her “CONSTANT”!

There are two definitions of “constant”  Occurring continuously over a period of time A situation or state of affairs that does not change  From the original Latin, it comes from the word “constare” which means “stand”, and translates “staying resolute, or faithful”.  Can you see where I am going with this already? Since I am talking to the men here, let me address your headship. Wow, did I need to go there with you? Uh huh. Let’s take a look at the example of headship that men are given through Christ. Hebrews 13:8 says ” Jesus Christ is the same, yesterday, today, and forever. ”  No wonder so many women fell in love with Jesus and followed him when He was here on earth! Everything about Him is constant, and it still is now that He is the resurrected King. God’s protection of women is so evident throughout the Bible. He allowed divorce during the time of Moses because husbands were rejecting and not treating their wives well. Jesus tells men in the New Testament …

What Will a Good Marriage Cost You?

I know this title is a strange question. I’m not going to go into dollars and cents. The subject is so much deeper than that and so much more important. My dear, to everything in life that is worth pursuing there is a cost. It makes no difference what that is. If there is something you decide you want more than anything else, you will pay a cost. Some of it will be your time, efforts, sacrificing other things, or maybe giving up one dream for a bigger one. If you want something good, like a good marriage, its going to cost you. Before I go into some of what that cost might be, ask yourself an important question. How important is it to have a good marriage? How about a GREAT marriage? This question is the first one you should ask and is the most important. Why you ask? We guide our decisions and ultimately our efforts according to importance. If we want something bad enough, we will work for it no matter what …

My Testimony of God’s Faithfulness

I just want to testify. In 1972 I looked out the window of my Mama’s bedroom with tears in my eyes and prayed for this young man named Patrick that I loved and played with as a child and had to move away from when I was 13. I asked God that I would marry him, not knowing even how to find him. Not knowing he was looking for me. I wore his ring, A LOT of life happened between then and now but 45 years later I am married to that man. You see, God hears every single prayer. He is FAITHFUL. He knew I had to go through some things to get to where I am. He knew that my husband would have to go through some things to get to where we are. God gave me a promise when I was just a little girl when I prayed in the darkness of my room with tears that i would marry that little boy one day. I want you to know that it …

The Broken Heart of God from Adultery and Lust

I don’t even know if there are words enough to describe the feeling or hurt of someone who discovers their spouse has committed adultery. The intimate act between a husband and wife is considered to be the most sacred within the bonds of a marriage covenant. The Bible tells us when we have intercourse with another, we spiritually are joined as much as we are physically. God uses a man’s act with prostitutes in order to make his point. Proverbs 6:26  “For a prostitute will bring you to poverty, but sleeping with another man’s wife will cost you your life.” (This goes the other way around in sleeping with another man’s husband as well).  1 Corinthians 6:16  “Do you not know that he who unites himself with a prostitute is one with her in body? For it is said, “The two will become one flesh.” (This is an example of creation of a spiritual soul tie) God designed the marriage covenant to be one of the most precious examples of His covenant with His people …