All posts filed under: empowerment

You Can Manifest Your Goals. Don’t Give Up!

One of the hardest things to do is get moving again once good habits have been let go of. There are always those defeating thoughts that go through our minds, like, “When I get enough money I will buy some new exercise equipment and then I will get into shape.” Or maybe this excuse hits home, “I’m not feeling well today. I need an indulgent treat to get through this emotional time. I will get more healthy tomorrow, next week, next month, next year, next decade…” Meanwhile, life is passing by, time is going faster than we realize, and before we know it we feel lost. I’ve seen this a million times in others and myself. It makes no difference what the goal is, the excuse seems bigger. The only thing that has to change to make a goal a reality is to make the goal bigger and more in focus. Whatever we focus upon always comes closer to us. We see this in daily synchronicities all of the time. If our thoughts are on …

Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Prayer to Begin Healing

I know, childhood sexual abuse is not an easy subject to talk about, especially when so many people go to such great lengths to hide it and stuff it away. It’s never hidden as much as anyone thinks it is though. Of course God knows. God knows everything. Children eventually grow up to be adults and they become aware what happened to them was not right. Until then, the issue is usually stuffed somewhere continually adding to soul scarring. Life moves on and people get caught up with whatever it is that is being attended to at the time. There is always something, but deep inside the issue is still brewing. It’s easy to pass it off because it only happened once, or maybe it will heal with enough love from someone else. Maybe God will heal it? Yet, unless it is discussed and dealt with it never gets healed. This is the truth. God can know but there are others who know. There is the victim and the one who did the person wrong. …

Stuck in Between

I realize this is not a typical Easter message, but then again, there is nothing typical about this Easter. I can’t say if this is a new normal or if it is a return to love. I like the believe the latter is true. During this season, I find myself stuck in between so many things. Some of them are probably just a lack of decisions but others are areas where I feel I am in a place of waiting. Ever feel like you just want to get the show on the road? You are all packed and ready but there is no gas in the car. Yep, I am there. Stuck in between. Moses found himself in the cleft of a rock as he stood on the mountain waiting to hear what God had to say to him. In fact, God placed him there. He said, “When my glory passes by, I will put you in a cleft in the rock and cover you with my hand until I have passed by.” (Exodus 33:22). …

The Gifts of Time and Appreciation

Coming out of a local store, I recognized a woman who was a part of my church. I had not been her Pastor for very long but I knew her from years gone by.  She had a look of desperation on her face and obviously needed some help. I spent part of the afternoon with her, helping her with some very urgent issues. Its always a labor of love to help someone who is struggling. I believe it truly sets up blessing in our lives. When we were done I was amazed that so much time had gone by. It seemed like moments and yet it was hours. After our time together was over that day I took a look at her again. Her whole face had changed from desperation to relaxation. It’s like she could breathe again. Sometimes resuscitation is not mouth to mouth but heart to heart. As I walked her to her car she turned around to look a me as she opened the door. With tears in her eyes she said, …

Creating Daily Rituals

A ritual is formally defined as a spiritual or religious rite that is practiced and done regularly.  We also can create habits or actions that we do consistently and regularly, as if they are religious- like. I suppose we can say “we do them religiously.” Much of the time we describe a ritual as an act or action we do daily. This can be anywhere from our skin care to our work out routine. It’s probably a good idea to squeeze some of the spiritual ritual into our daily routine as well. A well rounded life has them all; the everyday actions that are mostly habits and the more divinely inspired moments that are more deeply rooted in who we are and our existence. Daily rituals are needed for humans. Without them we are floating daily like a boat just drifting out to sea with no real direction. Rituals help give us direction, especially the deep spiritual ones. One of mine every morning is to grab my cup of coffee or tea and then sit …

What Defines You?

The question my title presents is much more important than you might think. We tend to become what our minds believe we are. Sometimes it feels like a true battlefield. Our minds might insist one thing when we want it to believe something else. Our belief is tested when someone accuses us of being something we don’t feel we are or don’t desire to be. This is when the question in my title becomes even more important. What is it that defines you? Are you defined by what others think or say you are? Or, are you defined by old stories your head might be telling you that spring up from the past?Sometimes people can define themselves by what they were told they were from others long ago. The crazy thing is those times have long drifted into nothingness, and yet, sometimes we are still battling those words or thoughts. Sometimes they are blame or shame based statements toward us that we take on today. The mind is the biggest battlefield we can ever try …

Characteristics of Love: Love is Not Self-Seeking

Not being self seeking can be confusing at first. On one hand we can not give of anything until we have it within ourselves. Being self assured, self giving, and providing self care are all good things. We do need to seek our healing, our inner light, and to seek out what is best in our lives. We give out of the overflow of what we have and who we are. We also self seek when we seek God to an extent. We seek to lose fear, define our lives, search out our purpose and expand our horizons. These are all great things and we should all do them! I believe what the author is saying here is that love does not behave selfishly with an attitude of entitlement over the needs of others. It’s very different to be self loving from being selfish and self centered in an arrogant way. Arrogance is a form of pride that lords itself over others. The type of self seeking that love is not is the kind that …