All posts filed under: Body Image

Childhood Sexual Abuse: A Prayer to Begin Healing

I know, childhood sexual abuse is not an easy subject to talk about, especially when so many people go to such great lengths to hide it and stuff it away. It’s never hidden as much as anyone thinks it is though. Of course God knows. God knows everything. Children eventually grow up to be adults and they become aware what happened to them was not right. Until then, the issue is usually stuffed somewhere continually adding to soul scarring. Life moves on and people get caught up with whatever it is that is being attended to at the time. There is always something, but deep inside the issue is still brewing. It’s easy to pass it off because it only happened once, or maybe it will heal with enough love from someone else. Maybe God will heal it? Yet, unless it is discussed and dealt with it never gets healed. This is the truth. God can know but there are others who know. There is the victim and the one who did the person wrong. …

Hypnosis: The Reframing and Renewing of the Mind

Do you wonder where your life is going? Let me answer that very simply. It always goes where your thoughts drive it. Read that again! Thoughts are crazy things. Sometimes we seem to manufacture them and others they are below the surface of our conscious mind. There is a huge reason why God wants us to transform our lives by the renewing of our minds. Its because our lives go where our conscious and unconscious thoughts will guide it. We are only transformed as much as we are willing to change our minds. This is both our conscious and unconscious. The unconscious mind (or subconscious) is a tricky little stinker. It always wants to drive the bus. Meaning, our lives tend to be on auto pilot until we take hold of it and make the changes we desire. Otherwise it never will change. I love hypnosis for this. Unlike what most people think, hypnosis is not an altered state, but a heightened state of awareness. This means that things become more clear and also more …

Your Weekly Wisdom: By Comparison

Could we be anymore flooded with images of what we should be or need to be? Who decided when we are supposed to make certain landmarks in our lives and what our value is or isn’t if we don’t? What about our choices? For instance, why is a woman looked at strange if she chooses to not have children in her life? I remember back in my old undergraduate days studying statistics in social sciences. Society creates these “norms” for living life. For some reason we are supposed to adhere to them or we are looked upon as deviant. The hard part about trying to live up to society’s norms is we all have a different idea of achievement and what that means to us. We also have different ideas about what is beautiful in a person. Some look on the outside. The more wise, I think, look on the inside. So who is society? The answer is us; we are. Then if we are those who are not “boat rockers” we want to go …

Fitness and Being Fabulous!

About 11 years ago I found myself going through a lot of personal life transition. During that time I went into the caregiving industry, caring for seniors in their homes and helping them do things they could not do for themselves. I was shocked at how many pretty healthy seniors needed someone to help them up and down in order to get around the house. These were not people who had major surgeries or issues, they just did not have the strength to get up and down, or keep themselves steady as they walked through the house. Basically, I became their crutch. I remember thinking to myself, I was not going to be like that! I am determined to walk on my own through my older age without help! Mobility is a gift in older age. Mobility helps us feel younger and more vibrant. I have come to appreciate this after a move from one city to another as of late. Unfortunately I ended up with a back muscle strain. It’s so hard when something …

The Effects of Sexual Addiction in Marriage and Book Suggestion

Quite awhile ago I picked up a book written by a Christian wife named Laurie Hall. Her book is called “Affair of the Mind”.  It is about how she found out about her husband’s sexual addiction, how it effected her personally, and how she dealt with it as a woman and Christian believer. I recall I had a hard time putting this one down. I read most of it the very first night I had it. My heart went out to her as I read her words and felt like I experienced her life in a lot of ways. I had been previously married to someone who was a sexually addicted man. Believe me, it’s no walk in the park, and can feel quiet abusive to experience. Beyond the stereotypical “men will be men” comments, sexual abuse is a very serious problem in a marriage. A sex addict gets just as much of a rush from naked images and porn as a cocaine addict does using the drug. I’ve heard stories of men who have …

You are NOT a Mistake!

I’m not sure if I can even count the amount of people who feel or believe that somehow they were “born wrong”. Either they were supposed to be a different gender (their parents wanted either a boy or girl) or their body parts just don’t live up to someone’s expectations. Writing it makes it sound kind of crazy but believe me, when a person is feeling like they are somehow wrong it sure is not a laughing matter. It can feel quite hurtful. Sooner or later a person’s whole life and decisions are made according to the wrong way they see themselves instead of the right way that God intends for them to see themselves. Each person was formed from greatness and in the image of God Himself. There is none that was made that He did not create. In the Bible Jesus is described as the “word”.  The book of  John explains that Jesus spoke all things into existence. He is the spoken word. John 1: 1-5  “In the beginning was the Word, and …

Be Powerful By Knowing Body Image Lies

In this world there is always a shadow side to every glimpse of light. Nothing can ever be completely exposed or even true. Knowing what is true is very powerful because truth is powerful. Along with this is also knowing what is not true. Knowing what the lie is and exposing it can always mean a sense of more power in life. For instance, let’s apply this to women’s body image. Can you imagine already how healing it is to just go through and list what things are simply not true? Take a look at how our society exposes women. Through media publications, and transmissions, we are set up to believe lies when it comes to what a woman should look like. We are blasted with images on a daily basis, of women who are touched up and altered so as not to expose the truth of what they really look like. We get to see airbrushed versions of who a person is.  The images have the cellulite, stretch marks, wrinkles, bags, puffiness, and added …