Doesn’t it seem like these days no matter what we do there is always someone who is unhappy about it? We’ve talked about differing opinions before. They are a dime a dozen (maybe with inflation a quarter a dozen)! We are our own self, a reflection of God’s unique creation.
Even in community doesn’t it seem like we all end up morphing into people who all start to look the same from the inside out? We are supposed to be around like minded people, but not to the extent where we morph into each other. The truth is, no matter how hard one might try, we can’t become someone else no matter how much we admire that person.
Sometimes we even compromise our uniqueness. We do this by people pleasing or feeling bad about ourselves when others don’t like something about us. We are a sensitive bunch, aren’t we? What about what YOU like about yourself? Even more, what about what God loves about you?
I like to talk about this subject because my primary ministry is to women affected by abuse and infidelity. Harshness, rejection, and lack of acceptance can send a person to tip the scales the wrong way in the uniqueness department. An abused woman or one who has been cheated on will go out of her way to please everyone around her just to overcompensate for her past lack of acceptance. There are a couple of hard realities when it comes to this.
- If she does this she will never heal and rediscover the true value of her real self the way God made her.
- No one can please everyone no matter how hard we try.
I’m going to give you some statements to keep you on the right track.
“I am how God made me, not what others say I am.”
” I am worth loving when I am just being myself.”
“The only one I truly need to please is God. Others will have to accept me as I am or not accept me at all.”
“I will not overcompensate just to make someone else happy with me, or compromise what I like, love, or desire in my life.”
“Other people’s thoughts about me are their own business, not mine.” (One of my personal favorites)!
Please don’t compromise the unique person that you are just to please someone else, or morph yourself into someone else’s idea of who you should be. Like what YOU like. Do the things YOU like to do. Remember that Jesus thought you were worth dying for, so please remember your value is immeasurable just the way you decide you want to be!
I challenge you today to not conform to any person’s abusive view of you! Do the healing work needed in order to overcome another person’s nastiness concerning who you are, what you like, your gifts and talents, your body image, and your self worth. Need prayer for this? Don’t be shy. Be bold enough to heal and call me! YOU can do this with God! Don’t put it off. You are NOT what others say you are. You are who GOD created you to be!
Also, stop trying to conform to another person’s image of who you should be. Go to God for healing. See once again who God created you to be! That image might be buried deep inside you but it is still there! Let others see the unique person you are, and even more, love yourself as you are!
Being ourselves together,
Pastor Jenine Marie Howry
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